Say someone deeply insults you, but you know nothing you say or do will change their behavior towards you or others. What do you do, if anything?
The couple of occasions this has happened in my life have deeply affected me, so I can rather recount the whole process I go through. First, I listen to everything they have to say and try to stay composed with my mouth shut, all the meanwhile trying to compose a rational response in my mind until they finish. Then I try not to let myself cry - I never get angry, only hurt, which is something I hate about myself and have a very hard time hiding. Once I feel I've gained enough presence and composure, I try to rationalize with them, explaining why [I think] they're wrong. I hate conflict, so I attempt to keep a very even tone and to make my response short and to the point before I let my emotions break through. Then, I usually leave or ask them to leave, avoiding any other conflict. Beyond that, I try to avoid the person in whatever ways possible. Their words, on the other hand, will follow me everywhere. I'll obsess over it for the next week or so, wondering what I've done to provoke such a response. After a bit I'll move on, but I never really get over it. Years later, the words of a deep insult will still be lodged in the deepest darkest parts of my mind and heart, waiting to jump out and attack if I ever let insecurity get the best of me.
Who is your least favorite character in the books and why? Umbridge. Quite simply, I despise her twisting of authority and barbaric methods. Not only was she incredibly sadistic in her methods of punishment, but she sought to promote extreme censorship both in her complete revampment of the Defense Against the Dark Arts curriculum and her stifling pretty much all of the freedoms Hogwarts students could enjoy. Censorship, especially in the academic world, infuriates me. Then in Deathly Hallows, she heads the Muggle-Born Registration Commission. The whole business hit a bit close to the early stages of the Holocaust for me. But without going into that, its safe to say that her extreme prejudice and sadistic heart, given to a position of great power during war time, was more than enough to make her my least favorite character.
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Date: 2009-01-14 02:47 am (UTC)The couple of occasions this has happened in my life have deeply affected me, so I can rather recount the whole process I go through. First, I listen to everything they have to say and try to stay composed with my mouth shut, all the meanwhile trying to compose a rational response in my mind until they finish. Then I try not to let myself cry - I never get angry, only hurt, which is something I hate about myself and have a very hard time hiding. Once I feel I've gained enough presence and composure, I try to rationalize with them, explaining why [I think] they're wrong. I hate conflict, so I attempt to keep a very even tone and to make my response short and to the point before I let my emotions break through. Then, I usually leave or ask them to leave, avoiding any other conflict. Beyond that, I try to avoid the person in whatever ways possible. Their words, on the other hand, will follow me everywhere. I'll obsess over it for the next week or so, wondering what I've done to provoke such a response. After a bit I'll move on, but I never really get over it. Years later, the words of a deep insult will still be lodged in the deepest darkest parts of my mind and heart, waiting to jump out and attack if I ever let insecurity get the best of me.
Who is your least favorite character in the books and why? Umbridge. Quite simply, I despise her twisting of authority and barbaric methods. Not only was she incredibly sadistic in her methods of punishment, but she sought to promote extreme censorship both in her complete revampment of the Defense Against the Dark Arts curriculum and her stifling pretty much all of the freedoms Hogwarts students could enjoy. Censorship, especially in the academic world, infuriates me. Then in Deathly Hallows, she heads the Muggle-Born Registration Commission. The whole business hit a bit close to the early stages of the Holocaust for me. But without going into that, its safe to say that her extreme prejudice and sadistic heart, given to a position of great power during war time, was more than enough to make her my least favorite character.